December 2013 Archive

Misconception 2: Coordinators Have Complete Control

We can plan the perfect wedding: find the best venue, coordinate the most fabulous vendors, and make sure the decor and details are impeccable. We can even make sure the dress fits like a glove (with help from alterations). And while all of this could be beyond perfect there are still unknown variables that we can not control. As much as we wish we could and many of couples wish we could (and sometimes even have the delusional belief that we can) sadly we can not.

Things that we can not control (believe it, or not):

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1. Weather-

Yes, we have been yelled at by brides and grooms because the weather wasn’t perfect. Or they call and ask us time and time again about the weather? We get phone calls from all kinds: The out of town couple- “Do you think it’s going to rain on our wedding day?” The Temecula couple- “Do you think it will be too hot?” The La Jolla couple- “Will it be foggy or hazy on our wedding day? What time will the marine layer disappear?”

While we wish we knew… this is something that is completely out of our hands. We are not God or weather men- your guess is as good as ours. All we can do is wish for the best and always have a plan b ready!

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2. Family and Bridal Party-

Your family members play a huge roll in the atmosphere of the wedding day. These are the people who love you the most and whom you care about the most but they may not always say the right thing or do the right thing on your special day. There have been many times where I wished I could stop words from coming out of someones mouth or put the words back in their mouth… or YELL… “they didn’t mean that” but I can’t. Most family and friends don’t understand how sensitive brides are on this day. Many brides have expectations and most of them are unspoken and one great piece of advice that I have for all of our brides is SPEAK UP. If you have expectations or an idea of what you want your getting ready time to be like or how your bridesmaids will act, or what you want your mom to do- SAY IT BEFORE THE WEDDING DAY.

While we wish we could put beautiful words into your families mouths and give your bridesmaids a selfless servants heart just for one day. We can’t. The actions and words of your family and bridal party are their responsibility. We do our best to make sure that the atmosphere is positive, fun, and loving. And we always offer support and solutions to any problems that do arise. The biggest thing is to let the words or actions of others on your wedding day (those other than love, joy, and happiness) roll right off your back… only soak in the good stuff and keep smiling! That special day really can be the happiest day of your life… if you choose to make it that!

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3. Alcohol Intake-

We can’t begin to tell you how many brides ask us to please monitor the alcohol intake of the groom, groomsmen, or a family member. While we can CUT THEM OFF when they have gone too far. We can’t regulate when or how they get to that point. We have no control over what the groomsmen bring to the getting ready room or even more commonly what happened the night before.

We know this can be a hard one to talk about with your partner because they are having fun with their friends, you want to let him do their thing. But in the long run, trust me… it’s much better for you to say something prior to the wedding day then asking us to regulate on that special day. Somehow it has never greatly accepted, when we ask them to slow down or hold back a little on the drinks. It only seems to egg them on more, to drink more, and to prove that they are in control and NOT US. haha… well, you don’t need to prove anything to us. That is one thing that we know we can’t control.

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We find it funny that when a family member says the wrong thing, a groomsmen drinks too much, or it sprinkles…. we are to blame because “we should have had it under control”.  And while some of you reading this think that THIS IS CRAZY! Let me be the first to tell you- IT HAPPENS.

We are not in complete control, be prepared for the unknown variables, laugh through it! Soak in every good, special, and perfect moment and forget about any bad! It’s not worth dwelling on or trying to find someone to blame. Instead ENJOY EVERY MOMENT.

We see it time after time… there are those who let the small stuff get to them and then there are those who are so IN LOVE and TRUST that we have done all that we can to make their day THE BEST DAY POSSIBLE and who truly know and believe that we are on the same team. A few rain drops can only BREAK your day if you let them. If you believe it is the BEST DAY EVER rain or shine, selfish or selfless bridesmaids, drunk or sober friends- IT WILL BE. Remember the guests want it to be an amazing day for the couple too. So if they see them happy, they will be happy!  We will make it the best day possible and control all that we can but know that we aren’t in complete control.  If we are being honest, things are bound to go wrong… brush it off and stay focused on the prize… being married at the end of day to the love of your life! A wedding day is a great test of true character and love for each other.

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XO coutureevents
Giving Spree: Time Worth Spending

“We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.”

~Dr. Loretta Scott

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We would like to remind you in the importance of LOVE this holiday season. Yesterday we shared some fabulous organizations to donate finically to & today we are sharing ways to donate what is most important: your time. We have an idea for everybody!

Do you like Christmas Music? 

Grab some friends and Go Caroling at Convalescent Homes in your area to bring some much needed joy to the elderly.

 Do you want to help provide food to the hungry?

Volunteer at a Soup Kitchen this season and see all the people your community is helping. Talk to the people who need you and help feed those who are hungry.

 Do you enjoy teaching others valuable skills?

Volunteer as an Adult Literacy Tutor at your nearest public library. You can offer your abilities and expand the opportunities in the lives of many.

 Do you enjoy spending time with kids?

Volunteer at an After School Program for children as a tutor or simply spend some fun and enjoyable time with them.

 Do you have a heart for the wounded?

Volunteer at a Veteran’s Hospital, by simply spending some time reading to the recuperating or chatting with a veteran you can show them that we have not forgotten them.

We would like to wish all of your lovelies a happy and gracious holiday season!

XO coutureevents
Giving Spree: A Gift Worth Giving

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

 Ralph Waldo Emerson

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With the holiday season in full swing it is easy to get lost in it all and forget the true meaning of the season. Couture Events would like to remind you what the holiday spirit is all about: LOVE.

We have provided you the perfect guide to show that love in your community this year. Whether through giving money or sharing your time with others, we would like to offer you some fabulous suggestions for sharing that love with others.

Here a few trusted organizations that would truly appreciate your love this holiday season.

$10 Orphan ChristmasHelp bring hope to the orphans of the world by providing food, shelter, medical care, children’s Bibles, educational assistance, adoption advocacy.

$12.25 Angel Tree–  It only costs $12.25 to help reach one prisoner’s child with a gift, the Gospel, and a message from their incarcerated parent. But right now, thanks to a generous matching grant, your gift will be doubled to help reach TWO prisoners’ children.

$15 Toys for Tots– Toys for Tots, is a military run, local toy drive each year, in order to provide gifts to less fortunate children. You can bring a new, unwrapped present to one of the many drop off points in the area or simply donate online.

 $25 The American Red CrossThe American Red Cross helps people in need every single day and provide people in crisis with relief for today and hope for tomorrow.

 $50+ Adopt-A-FamilyFamilies provide a “wish list” of needed items which you may choose to purchase to ensure that these families enjoy a happy holiday despite financial troubles this year.

There are so many more options for giving other than a finical gift. Stay tuned tomorrow and we are going to show you how to donate what is most important: your time.

XO coutureevents
Couture’s Favorite Things: Kelli’s Picks

Tis’ the season for shopping! Lets admit it, making our wish list is one our favorite things about the holiday season. We can put it behind peppermint bark and old christmas movies. While my list may be longer than I care to admit, here are my top 5 things that I think would fit in perfectly under any tree!

Kate Spade Things We Love Coffee Table Book

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I have been eying this treat for a while and am hoping to add it to my collection soon. I am a personal admirer of everything Kate Spade. Kate Spade embodies playful sophistication and reminds us everyday to live colorfully. I can’t wait to have that reminder sitting on my coffee table!

Attingham Teacups from Anthropologie

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I wish everyday could be one giant tea party. Frilly dresses, big hats, pinkies up and all. Since it seems that this is not going to be an option anytime soon (shucks…) I will settle to drink my morning coffee out of these adorable tea cups. A girl can pretend right…?

2014 Kate Desk Calendar from Sugar Paper

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What better way to ring in the new year than with this fabulous pink and gold desk calendar from Sugar Paper! This is an adorable way to help stay on track with all of my new year’s resolutions!

Laura Mercier Fresh Fig Honey Bath

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As amazing as the holiday season is, lets all be honest…its stressful! This rich bath soak not only smells incredible it also helps cure the winter’s damage to the skin with shea butter and macadamia nut oil. Its the perfect treat to unwind after all of that holiday shopping!

Nails Inc. Gel Effect Polish

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This polish is incredible! I want it in every color! The Nails Inc. Gel Effect line goes on smooth and plumps on your nail so it looks like you have new shiny gels on. It may not last as long as a real gel manicure but it will keep your hands looking pretty until you can make it back to the salon.

Let us know whats on your wish list ladies!

XO kelli
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